Getting over looking back, and looking forward

October 29, 2012 — 9 Comments

For those of you who have followed this eclectic yet (I hope) mostly humble personal blog for a long time, you’d know by know that my life is like a work of fiction that people would review on Amazon as being unrealistic and impossible.

And I do look back and consider the same; I’ve often joked with friends that my life was a bad work of fiction at times, and it probably is.

But it is my life.

I haven’t posted much here in the last 3 or so years; sort of coincidence that the time was between the separation (post TechCrunch…another post but likely related), divorce, failed relationship, losing my son, then an finally a happy relationship and a new family and love in my life.

I did get a bit angsty about my son, although I’ve pulled a few of those posts now but kept only the key ones, hoping one day he might read them…as in about 7.5 years time.

But this post isn’t about looking back.

You know you can dwell on the past for ever and a day…and it’s particularly hard when you’ve lost a child, and in my case, been forced to sell a site (for reasons I can no longer mention legally.)

But this is what I can say.

And I say this to everyone who has ever been down.

Anyone who has ever wondered whether tomorrow will come, whether the worst will ever fade away.

There is a tomorrow.

With me, I finally found my soul mate, some one who understands me and more importantly what I do for a living (indeed she does the same.)

More importantly, with that support I finally got my mojo back: I wrote 14 blog posts today…and that’s my highest level since I owned The Inquisitr.

Money is tight, that’s the truth (and I can’t say why for legal reasons) but finally I’m bringing in good money again from websites. Enough to relax: hell no, but it’s growing every day.

If you’re a blogger, or if you’re not, if you’ve gone through a divorce and/or a fucked up relationship (or both) as I have, I have one thing to say to you today.

There is light at the end of the tunnel.

It takes time, and when you’re waiting for that time you believe that it will never happen. I did…for a long time.

I’d say too long, but I’m happy now, and that is what counts.

Be well everyone reading this, and I thank everyone who supports me, be it in person, Twitter, Facebook, or other social networking sites.

Remember you can only go up from the bottom of the valley.

I’ve been there and come up…and so can you.

 

  • http://Laneth.com/ Laneth Sffarlenn

    As someone that is going through a divorce and whose life is on hold until almost mid-2013 before I’m finally free to move on, I have to thank you for writing this post mate.

    For the supporting strength you’re lending by reminding us that tomorrow does come; for the sharing of your personal story; for the honesty and friendship you’ve shown to so many of us.

    You’re a good mate and you’ve seen so much. I am just glad that I see you smiling now.

  • http://www.facebook.com/chrispian Chrispian H. Burks

    I can only imagine what you’re going through with your son. I’ve seen my brother torn apart by a similar situation with his ex but they finally worked out some civility. I’ve read most of your posts and it doesn’t sound like your ex will come around. I kinda of know what this feels like from the kids pov though. My mom and dad split when I was abou 11 or so and I didn’t see my mom again until I was 22, 23. She died a few years later so I didn’t get to know her as well. But this is the important part. I never forgot about her and I certainly never stopped loving her. Your son will remember and love you and be eager to see you again! I know you’ll miss some stuff but you guys will be together again. Now get back to work ;)

  • http://www.facebook.com/m0nty.au Paul Montgomery

    Onya Duncan, great to hear that things are flowing again!

  • http://www.inquisitr.com Duncan Riley

    thx Monty

  • http://www.facebook.com/minic Dominic Rivera

    Happy that you’re moving forward :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/patrick.varden Patrick Varden

    I admire your strength Duncan and your new found outlook on life is inspiring. You’ve fought a lot of battles and I really appreciate that you have shared your advice.

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