Thoughts on Chiang Mai and being accused of “Running Away”

June 7, 2014 — 3 Comments

I’ve been accused by quite a few people of running away from my problems.

I’m not, as opposed to saying fuck it all and lets live somewhere where I can be happy and content.

I would never have thought about moving to Chiang Mai accept this bloke I know, who’s maybe a bit crazier than I am, but none the less a good bloke (and he worked out the sale of The Blog Herald for me) David Krug suggested Chiang Mai as a destination.

I’m happy he did.

I love this town. I really do. I’m content here. I’m comfortable. And the only bad thing is it’s near on impossible to get a permanent stay here visa.

And yet some people suggest that I’ve run away.

I’ve not run away from anything. You can’t runaway from nothing after all :)

My relationship with Kellie came to an end and so be it: still love the girl, and will always be there for her, but let me say this (please don’t be upset Kel that I’m saying this publicly) I encouraged her to get back with her husband, which she has and is still doing. She’s quite possibly my sole mate, and the only person I’ve ever met in my life who is kinda like me.

It’s a relationship I actually regret losing…unlike the nut cases prior.

I’ve had a seriously colourful relationship past (before Kellie I would note…I have ZERO negative to say about her,) including a full blown psycho who thought that sending out IVO’s daily was fun. That relationship cost me soooo many friends it wasn’t funny. For the record my name was on them: it wasn’t my idea, I was just supporting my partner.

But I need to accept the blame.

My ex-wife left me after telling me one day that she’d like to donate to the IVF programme then several months later running off with the husband of the woman she was donating her eggs to.

Shit I can’t make up: I’m seriously not that creative.

But so it is.

The next time you, and anyone thinks that I’m in Thailand running away please don’t: I’m here because I gave up the pursuit of wealth in an attempt to be content and happy, and this place makes me happy.

I’m content, not stressed (every day people nearly run me over and I don’t care, in Melbourne I’d be seriously upset.)

If it works out I don’t know. And yes the heat earlier this week got to me. But tell me seriously if you’re single: why not give a shot to something that may make you happy?

PS: Given I’m 15 months away from middle age…. ;)

  • caroldekkers

    Duncan,

    I don’t know you but I found this post through your friend Jim Benson… it takes courage to follow your dreams, leave drama behind, and live life on your terms rather than what others tell you you ought to do. Way too many regret never doing something just based on their own intuition. You’ve taken the first step to no longer being ruled by the opinions of others…congratulations.

    Stay the course, find your truth, make your own definition of happiness. That’s when life (IMHO) really begins.

    Be well and keep blogging…
    Carol

  • CNXTim

    Ex wife, Ex girlfriend Ex Melbourne sure sound to me that you are running away – enjoy Chiang Mai and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

  • http://resortsinmexico.net David Paul Krug

    You sound happy and that’s all that matters. Eff the rest!